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I have been back at work a week, and it has been OK. I started with a couple of shorter days and have been trying to stick to finishing at 5, and I don't feel too tired. I'm only working Monday and Tuesday next week, and then I'll be on leave until 4 January. Everyone seems to be very glad to have me back, though actually, things appear to have gone along pretty well without me.

I had to write a brief biography for a leadership course I'll be doing next year (leadership? Me? I don't know what they can be thinking) and ended with "I identify as queer, neurodivergent and a feminist and this fundamentally shapes my approach to work and life". Which felt...brave, but good.

I have also spent much of the week with an epic book hangover from finishing Victoria Goddard's At the Feet of the Sun, which is, basically, the epic ace romance of my dreams. And then I looked at the fic, and got annoyed that so many people seemed to think that the canon ace romance should develop into the characters having sex, and I got annoyed and ended up writing my own fic, in which they do not have sex. And I may have just outed myself as someone who prefers balance sheets to sex.
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Today is the first ever International Asexuality Day. I'm not actually sure who decided it would be International Asexuality Day - I hadn't heard about it until things started popping up on social media earlier - but I'm happy to see increased awareness and visibility around ace-spectrum people.

I only worked out I was ace a couple of years ago. I don't think I even knew that "asexual" referred to anything apart from amoeba reproduction until about five years ago, but once I heard about it I immediately started to wonder whether that explained my complete lack of interest in sex, rather than it being down to the Pill messing up my hormones, or menopause, or being married to the same person for too long (but I didn't have any interest in doing it with anyone else, either). Oddly, starting to read romance has really helped me to feel confident that I actually am ace, and not just broken, because romance novels contain very clear and explicit descriptions of sexual attraction and that's made it much easier for me to say no, I've never experienced that feeling, or anything at all like it. Even if I do then have to skip all the sex scenes because I don't enjoy reading them!

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