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I have got a new pronoun badge, which is "She/They" rather than the "She/Her" I had before. For me, what "she/they" means is, essentially, that I've spent 47 years being referred to as "she" and am fairly sure that no matter how masculine-of-centre I dress the vast majority of people are going to look at me and see a she, and I can generally live with that, at least in passing conversation, but I'm increasingly feeling that "they" feels more right for me.

I was going to post a picture of it on Instagram and Facebook, as a way of coming out to everyone, but both IG and FB are currently down, so that is going to have to wait. (Not having either one feels quite peaceful, actually, but I miss WhatsApp as that's how I communicate with the swimming coven.)

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am fairly sure that no matter how masculine-of-centre I dress the vast majority of people are going to look at me and see a she

Honestly I thought that too and have been surprised at how little effort gets me called "he" or "mate" or little kids saying stuff like "why does that man have a stick?"

Which is not to say you should or have to do that. But it might not be as out of the question as you imagine. :)

I'm sorry you can't make your announcement yet! Happy they/them pronouns, anyway.

Well, we'll see. (Tbh, at the moment I think I prefer "she" to "he" - "she" is not quite right but familiar, "he" is definitely wrong - but that may also change.)

Thank you!