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white_hart) wrote2021-04-06 06:50 pm
white_hart) wrote2021-04-06 06:50 pm
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Happy International Asexuality Day! (96/365)
Today is the first ever International Asexuality Day. I'm not actually sure who decided it would be International Asexuality Day - I hadn't heard about it until things started popping up on social media earlier - but I'm happy to see increased awareness and visibility around ace-spectrum people.
I only worked out I was ace a couple of years ago. I don't think I even knew that "asexual" referred to anything apart from amoeba reproduction until about five years ago, but once I heard about it I immediately started to wonder whether that explained my complete lack of interest in sex, rather than it being down to the Pill messing up my hormones, or menopause, or being married to the same person for too long (but I didn't have any interest in doing it with anyone else, either). Oddly, starting to read romance has really helped me to feel confident that I actually am ace, and not just broken, because romance novels contain very clear and explicit descriptions of sexual attraction and that's made it much easier for me to say no, I've never experienced that feeling, or anything at all like it. Even if I do then have to skip all the sex scenes because I don't enjoy reading them!
I only worked out I was ace a couple of years ago. I don't think I even knew that "asexual" referred to anything apart from amoeba reproduction until about five years ago, but once I heard about it I immediately started to wonder whether that explained my complete lack of interest in sex, rather than it being down to the Pill messing up my hormones, or menopause, or being married to the same person for too long (but I didn't have any interest in doing it with anyone else, either). Oddly, starting to read romance has really helped me to feel confident that I actually am ace, and not just broken, because romance novels contain very clear and explicit descriptions of sexual attraction and that's made it much easier for me to say no, I've never experienced that feeling, or anything at all like it. Even if I do then have to skip all the sex scenes because I don't enjoy reading them!